Hacking judgmental impulses involves 2 aspects of unconsciousness. The first aspect is unconsciously judging yourself. The second aspect is unconsciously judging others. Both involve words that tramp across your mind without conscious permission. They isolate negative attributes that come from another place.
Hacking judgmental impulses: WHY?
Hacking judgmental impulses begs the question why are you thinking these judgments. Why are you seeking the critical? Could it be that you aren’t actually responsible for these debilitating thoughts? You have to know how off-setting these thoughts are whether they are pointed at you or another. So why do you experience them?
Hacking judgmental impulses TRUE?
When hacking judgmental impulses, you want to ask yourself, do you consider judgmental impulses about you true? Are they thoughts that expose something of a critical nature about you? Do you consider them a part of your life to be hidden? Do you view them as constructive criticism?
When you are hacking judgmental impulses about another person you want to question whether you believe the judgments to be true about the other person. Do you find your judgments of others to be more negative than observational? Are these judgmental impulses ideas of how the other person has missed some sort of predetermined standard?
Have you become so attached to judgmental impulses that you don’t recognize when they start? Once started you don’t know how to let them go? Have they become so much a part of how you view yourself that you’d be lost without them? When directed towards others do they protect you by diverting attention from your own self-criticism?
Hacking judgmental impulses YOU and SAFETY
If you answered yes to any of the above questions then your ego is set to full blast, doing all it can to keep you safe or make you the ‘winner.’ The way to hacking judgmental impulses pointed at you is to reassure your safety. As soon as you begin to judge yourself stop and ask, “What tis the safety issue here?”
Example of how to do this is if you have a judgmental impulse to call yourself ugly or stupid then stop as soon as you recognize the self-criticism and ask what is the safety issue here? If I am ugly then I’ll be rejected by others and being rejected feels very unsafe. If I am seen as stupid then I’ll never get the job I want and that feels very unsafe. After bringing the safety issue to light drop the judgment immediately. Stop obsessing over what you think eludes you. Know that whatever the criticism is, it is not true. Ask yourself, “Is the thought that I am stupid true?” Then ask, “Is it absolutely true?” Then contemplate: If I stopped believing that thought would my life improve, would I like/love myself more? For more information on TheWork ClickHere.
Hacking judgmental impulses others and Winning
Let’s take a look at hacking judgmental impulses about another person. As an example, if you have the impulse to judge another person as controlling or perhaps rude or anything negative, stop as soon as you recognize this criticism. Ask what will I lose if this criticism is true? Stop obsessing and ask what did I lose here? If you judged the other person to be controlling then you believe that you lost control of the exchange with the other person. Ask yourself did I really lose control of the exchange? Is that true? Is it absolutely true? If I stopped believing that I lost control would my life improve?
You can try this with judging someone to be rude. As soon as you hear the word rude in your head, stop obsessing about the thought of rudeness and ask, what did I think I lost here? I lost sense of appreciation and respect. Did having one judgment of rudeness cause me to lose respect for myself? Is that true. Is that absolutely true? What would my life be like without that thought?
The happy arrival of your dreams depends on your ability to be conscious. Hacking judgmental impulses keeps you conscious of the real you. It keeps you from making too much of the ego’s task of safety and winning. Be easy on yourself. Be delighted with yourself. Recognize the great in yourself and others.